The Blue Eyed Crow

One day a number of years ago, my daughter and I were taking a walk down the street. About three houses from the end of the street, we noticed that some of the neighborhood kids had set up some of those miniature orange traffic cones in a circle on the side of the road.

As we approached, my daughter and I realized that the kids had encircled what appeared to be an injured crow.

Now, we have several small groups of crows in our neighborhood and I have always loved to see them. They are spiritually credited for bringing people from darkness to light, and I have observed them closely. I have noticed that the crows tend to flock to houses where someone soon dies. I see this as a method of helping the person, although I know that there are many who see things different–that the crows bring Death itself. I have never believed that.

Anyway, back to the story:

My daughter and I approached the small group of boys who were staring avidly at the crow. We looked as well.

The crow appeared fine. His wings were held appropriately, he was hopping around in a circle. There were no obvious marks on him, his feathers were smooth. He just wouldn’t take flight. This was no baby crow either, he was full grown.

I asked the boys what had happened and they said that they just found him in the road like that, and that no matter what they did, he wouldn’t fly away. They’d put the cones around him to keep him from being hit by a car.

I was fascinated. I’ve always loved crows and I bend closer to see him better. He did not show fear, but turned and looked me straight in the eye.

His eyes were a vivid blue.

Blue? I was surprised. To my knowledge, crows do not have blue eyes. Their eyes are instead a dark black/brown. I looked at my daughter and asked her if she saw his eyes. She, too, saw they were blue.

Not knowing what else to do, we wished the boys and the crow well and continued on our walk, wondering what was wrong with the crow.

The next day, tragedy struck.

A friend and her husband lived at the very end of the street. That morning, my friend awoke to find her husband…only in his late 30’s…dead of a sudden, massive, fatal heart attack during the night.

Our neighborhood mourned. It was sudden and tragic, but mercifully quick. My friend has never been the same. The funeral was heartbreaking.

Later, after the dust had settled, I was out walking again and saw the same group of boys. I stopped to ask them what had happened to the crow they’d protected. The boys told me that the next morning, they’d gone out to check him and found him dead–just before the ambulances came down the street to my friend’s house.

I was sad for the loss of the blue-eyed crow. I’d done some research and had been unable to find any information on how that crow could have gotten blue eyes. It just didn’t happen. But it struck me in that moment, that the crow was there for a reason. He had come to guide my friend’s husband on his journey, and had left in his spirit-self to complete the task, just as my friend’s husband did.

I felt blessed that I’d been given the gift of seeing the blue eyed crow, and felt better about the loss of life. He did not die alone. Neither one of them did.

From that time on, I’ve accepted crow as one of my animal guides. I feel comforted by their presence, and I welcome them near me. And I know when the time comes, I can expect my own blue-eyed crow to guide me Home.

Published in:  on January 12, 2009 at 9:37 am Leave a Comment
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Journal: Dreams

I had a very strange run of dreams lately.
The dreams of tornados and rainstorms came a few days before the hurricaine hit Florida.
I have had dreams like that before. I dreamed of an airplane crash a couple days before one happened. These types of prementory dreams I can deal with because I can’t control the outcomes. I could no more have stopped the storms in Florida than I could have guessed where the plane would go down. (In my town, fyi.).
But the dreams of the past couple days have had me wondering if something is going on.
I posted over at The D Spot about my strange run of people with the same name. The fact that I was dreaming of one, when another one of them came into the dream, announced they were taking it over, and then proceeded to take over…well that was just weird.
Today I dreamed again of the two of them, and then the dream abruptly switched.

I dreamed my husband’s funeral.
This bothers me on many levels.
First and foremost, I do not have any wish for him to die. God knows, he’s fought his cancer for 6 years and been relatively healthy throughout. Reality is that he has already been out of remission once, and the second one is not usually is durable. Reality also is, however, that there are new drugs approved and even more on the horizon AND we have bone marrow on ice, ready if he needs a transplant.
So why did I have such a vivid and disturbing dream?
I saw the doctor tell us that palliative care was our only option. I saw myself feed him ice cream in a hospital room.
I saw the church, I saw the mourners, I heard the eulogy (by his friend T). I saw what I was wearing, I saw myself packing away his clothes. I felt so bad I woke up crying.
I hope this is not a premonition dream.
It was very realistic though, and that scares me a lot.
We were not much older than we are right now.
I woke up because he came into the room. I wiped my eyes quickly, and I don’t think he noticed I woke up crying.
He went to play softball and I am free now to explore the dream and the feelings.
Dream interpretations usually say a dream of death is just a dream of change, much like the death card in the tarot deck. I agree, when in the dream you have knowledge that someone has died. This was different in that I saw the whole thing unfold. Maybe I can’t be objective here, but it didn’t feel like a reference to change.
It felt like a premonition.

Published in:  on August 24, 2008 at 8:17 pm Leave a Comment
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Journal: Death

I am on the mailing list for the church we just joined, so I always receive an email copy of the weekly sermon. I have to say, this pastor is very forward thinking. Last week, he mentioned the big bang theory and this week’s sermon mentions evolution.
I always thought that the big bang, evolution, genesis, and the god/goddess creation story all mesh together really nicely. (Try telling that to some of the more…Lutheran…members of my family though!)
Anyway, this week’s sermon was about death and how we fear it because it seems wrong.
Death is the antithesis of life, true, but its also necessary.
One doctor at work wisely said “There is no cure for life, its always terminal. We just do what we can to make it easier.”
Wise words.
After yesterday’s sudden attack of tears and sadness, and the fear of loss that came along with it….I have just been thinking about death. And so it was serendipitous that I opened up the email from church today with the sermon in it.
I am sure that I will have more to add at a later date.

Published in:  on July 16, 2008 at 5:59 pm Leave a Comment
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